The most ubiquitous quality we possess as human beings, is the ability to DECIDE. From the beginning of time, we were endowed with the God given gift of free will. It is with free will that we are able to choose: make decisions at any time, about anything we want to change in our lives. The truth is, it is your decision that propels action and “action creates commitment” (Fiske, 2014). We can choose to be a victim or a victor, we can choose to love or live in fear or we can choose to embrace our possibilities, but most important, it will always be our DECISON.

I decided years ago to choose love over fear. Between ages 9 and 13, I was molested by my granduncle who treated me like his girlfriend. As a child experiencing this abuse, I was sad, confused, emotionally distraught and for some time, I lost my voice. I only realized, at age 39, when I attended a Landmark Forum transformational seminar, that because of my experience, I had created a false self-image. The story I was writing for my life, was far from my possibilities and potential. I thought I was undeserving and unworthy of having a wholesome, happy and loving relationship. Sitting in my seat at the seminar and listening to some powerful words from the speakers, I had my aha moment. I immediately understood why I had an aversion to relationships with men who might have truly loved me and an attraction to the ones who did not share my values. I decided to rewrite my story and within 9 months of that realization I married my soulmate.

I now live with clarity about my personal, professional and social life. My many accomplishments have resulted from my choosing, to be guided by Love. The lesson that enables me to choose love is that I am a spiritual being having a human experience. I, as we all are, am born to manifest God’s love and as such I have the power to choose my actions based on love and not fear.

My Journey has led me to a beautiful and abundant place, now my job is to share the knowledge with others who are struggling. I will do so at We Inspire Women Workshop and Brunch, August 26 & 27, Kingston, Jamaica.

Donna Duncan-Scott

Group Executive Director, Culture & Human Development, JMMB.